How I nearly ruined Mother’s Day

I’ve got to admit – Mother’s Day is one of the most fear eliciting, stress inducing weekends of the year for me. It’s not so much about my ineptness in selecting a gift or honoring the mother of my house – Debbie. Although, I’ve messed that up more than once :-)

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No, the trepidation comes from the annual exercise of trying to prepare and deliver a message that navigates the veritable minefield of emotions that women are feeling on that day. You’ve got women who are: mom’s, want to be mom’s but haven’t been able to yet, mothers who’ve lost a child, women who’ve lost a mother recently, moms with wayward children, women who have lost their husbands, women who would LIKE to lose their husband, women who would like to find a husband, career moms, stay at home moms. The list goes on.

I try to do my best but over the years, admittedly, there have been times that my sermons probably did more harm than good. My heart was right but my sensitivity meter was broken. Clueless might best describe it.

Honestly, we could probably just blow right thru Mother’s Day. Ignore it from the pulpit. It not in the Bible. Just a few years after it became a holiday, the person who created it was arrested for disturbing the peace while protesting against it. We could just take a pass and avoid the potential pain entirely.

That’s probably the best idea, but unfortunately it’s not the one I’ve chosen. I still think its a great weekend to tackle issues that impact women and give them an encouraging word from the wisdom of God. We’ve just got to be less clumsy.

So here’s what I’m doing this year:

  • First – Debbie sat me down and made me read this blog post by Amy Young. It was golden! I was going to innocently violate the most basic no-no – asking mothers to stand so I could pray for them. I would have ruined Mother’s Day for someone. Good catch Deb!
  • Second – I made a list of several women who represented some of the above mentioned stations in life and then asked them to help me with the message.
  • Third – I’m praying like crazy that God will use it in a powerful way.

Now I’m really looking forward to Mother’s Day. It should be great – if I don’t figure out a new way to mess it up :-)

Greg is the founding pastor of Seacoast Church, one of the early adopters of the multi-site model. Located in Mt. Pleasant, South Carolina, Seacoast has been recognized by various media as an innovative and influential thought leader in future strategies for church growth and development.

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6 comments
Eva Lavallee
Eva Lavallee

For everyone to know: Mother's Day is special to me. Not only because I have two girls and three grandchildren, but because God planted the seed for my birth long before my Mom realized. On Momma's Day I embraced my Mom's love and spirit and this year was extra special because Momma's Day was also her birthday. Mother's are special because God creates his image through them. I am the luckiest person in the world with God and his united family "US" always being at our side. My Mom's Day was spent at the side of my Mother's grave site. She unlike ourselves celebrates with God in Heaven and although my Momma is in Heaven we celebrate her day spiritually. God Bless all Mom's and her creation through Him.

MaryEllen
MaryEllen

Pastor Greg, you are so right. Mother's Day is not all "pink roses" for everyone. Thanks for acknowledging that. It's a long story but I have always felt cheated out of whatever this "Happy Mother's Day" thing is supposed to feel like, even though I am a mother. I just didn't have the "typical" mothering experience...and days like mother's day usually got ignored. In the past, I would leave church on Mother's Day feeling rather depressed - so a few years back I made a vow not to go to church on that day. I am, however, looking forward to your message today and am particularly grateful for online church to be able to hear it. ;-) God bless.

Debbie Loveday
Debbie Loveday

You are the best Pastor. Love u from the bottom of my heart. You are so authentic and caring. Love ya and God bless you and Deb.

Dawn Kennedy
Dawn Kennedy

Pastor Greg, I will be praying for you to speak God's words only on Mother's Day. The God of healing, compassion, mercy, love and tenderness impart to you His own heart to touch the hearts of your flock! Thank you for your dedication and sensitivity- and kuddos to Debbie for helping out with that awesome blog post. Can't wait to see what God is going to do! Blessings, Dawn Kennedy

Fran Stevens
Fran Stevens

Pastor, you are the most honest and most humorous pastor I have ever known. I grew up Catholic and felt so distant from the priests. I felt that I could never reach their level of spirituality. You, in all your humanness, makes that spiritual level seem attainable. Thank you for all your honesty. I love having you as my pastor!

JANIE GIORGI
JANIE GIORGI

WOW, THAT IS A LOADED TOPIC.....NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY. MOMS JUST WANT THERE CHILD TO SAY, I LOVE YOU, MOM AND YOU TOTALLY ROCK...MY SON TELLS ME ALL THE TIME. SO I AM A HAPPY MOM.